It was a year and a half ago....
As I cried at the thought of moving out of my big comfy house in the suburbs in exchange for Farm Life, my quiet-spoken (World War II-veteran) dad told me of an article he had just read about the war.
"You know," he started humbly, "they always said that the soldiers felt better when they had a farm boy in their group. They knew that the farm boys worked the hardest and could fix anything. They were used to fixing tractors and wells back-home on the farm. Many times that knowledge and experience saved the lives of many men."
I remembered that statement this week as I reflected back on what I've observed the farm kids do over the short time we've been here so far:
- I've seen a 9-year old maneuver a 350 horsepower tractor like a pro.
- I've watched an 11-year old handle a gun with the confidence of a soldier.
- I've known of many 13-year olds take apart and reassemble the engines of QUADS with the technique of a curious professional mechanic.
- And, I've watched kids work long hours along-side their families when it was time to get the crops in...all without complaining or asking, "Are we done yet?" (Not even once.)
Some parents try to send their city kids down here for the occasional summer job, hoping they will learn those farm life essentials in a few months. (It doesn't really work that way.) Tourists travel thousands of miles and pay lots of money to the local "Guest Ranch" (think of the movie City Slickers) in order to try to get a crash-course in Ranching and Farming.
Witnessing both of these groups finally made me understand that these characteristics are learned because of a farm LIFESTYLE. I have to say it was extremely hard for ME at first. I never wanted to come here in the first place. Taking most of those urban conveniences (I was used to) away made me struggle. My dependence on "things" were almost a slap in the face when I realized just HOW MUCH I relied on them; just how much comfort they gave me.
And, it was obviously apparent to everyone in town.
(That was embarassing.)
I wanted to change that.
I have much to learn, but I've come a LONG way. I've learnd that the opposition and trials teach one to be self-reliant, and we have faced trials on a farm that you just CAN'T experience anywhere else.
I've also learned over and over that there's a certain self-confidence that comes from KNOWING you can "handle it" and being forced into situations that MAKE you "step up".
"Will I be able to teach our kids that?" I wondered often.
A glimmer of an answer came this week, when Hayden volunteered for a new responsibility. I never asked him to do this, I always just did it myself. But he decided on monday to take the initiative, and "step-up" to help a family member. All by himself.
Every time we enter or leave the Ranch, we have to move a heavy, rusted cattle gate. A new and improved gate will replace the antique soon, but for now it HAS to be moved every time. On a ranch, leaving a gate open is grounds for SERIOUS discipline....if you let the cows out, you are TOAST!
"I'll open the gate, mommy," I heard proclaimed from the backseat. "I can do it."
I watched as he jumped out of the car and marched himself over to the gate, which is almost as tall as he is. Then, I watched as my 45-pound 5-year old heaved and struggled with that heavy metal mass. He pushed with everything he had; over bumps and rocks. I couldn't help but jump out of the car, concerned and wanting to help him. "No, mommy! Get back in the car, I can do this myself!" he yelled defiantly and determined. I just stood back in awe, with misty eyes.

I got back in the car and cheered encouragement from the open window. When he slowly wrestled it in place he leaned back victoriously against the gate. After I pulled through, he quickly got back to work; struggling and wrestling that thing until it was closed. Skipping back to the car and enjoying a triumphant "high-five" he smiled in his seat the whole way home.
I thought I had just witnessed a once-in-a-lifetime burst of cattle gate enthusiasm. Not so. He is now the official gate-keeper, as takes his job very seriously.....EVERYTIME.
I have to say that this place is growing on me. There is something magical about living a farm lifestyle. I am excited about how this lifestyle is blessing us personally, as a family, and what essential life lessons it will teach our children.
Are there some drawbacks? Sure. But I'm feeling more and more confident that I can "make-up" for that other stuff we left behind. Besides, it wouldn't really WORK the other way around.